How to Attract Men?

Attract a guy can be easy if you know the key to be in control of the game! First you need to become the best you can be and evolve constantly. You have to be your best self physically, be in control of your body language and be in control of the relation with the man. With all these secrets you will attract the man you really want. A man of quality! But don’t forget, attraction is not logical, and attraction is something you just can’t help but feel!


Improve Yourself, Be The Best You Can Be, Constantly Evolve

High quality men, appreciate high quality women. Don’t change yourself to attract men, but change yourself to become a better you. Know first who you are.

Develop Your Own Identity And Standard Of Value
You have to know who you are, your own identity and your values. It is essential that you know what is important for you, what are your beliefs to recognize immediately if you can match or not with someone else. It will be easier to judge the potential of a relationship if you can find someone who will not hurt what you deeply believe. For instance, if you are vegetarian it will be difficult to go out with a hunter.

Habitually Put Yourself Into A State Mood of High Energy And Happiness
Are you a happy person? Are you happy with your life, your work, your purpose, your state of being? A guy isn’t going to make you happy. That’s not his job. Nor do you want it to be. A woman who is happy and shows it, is highly desirable for a man, because at the end of day, a guy wants to feel good. But be careful, a man of quality and intrigue can sense the inconsistent energy of a woman who is faking it. He will never trade his loaf of bread for her crumbs. He wants a partner who is on his level, and you must invest in yourself as he has done himself.

This isn’t about just being happy, this is about putting yourself in a great state so that you can operate from that state of resourcefulness. When you present as a beautiful woman with plenty of internal resources (esteem for yourself and a zest for life): what happens? You have juicy, seductive, and nurturing energy to give out, even if you don’t notice it yourself. I don’t mean for you to be jumping up and down on the spot like a crazy person, I mean for you to be in a great mood state. One of the best way is to use music. Use music that you know makes you feel instantly happy, excited or sensual. Grab your iPod and take it with you.

When you are happy, you’re usually not acting from your conditioning, you’re going to be authenthic, and you’re going to be responding to whatever situation comes up with a ‘you’ energy, and this will draw not just men to you – but men who actually appreciate and love you for you! Men respond to you when they can feel your authenticity. Some men don’t care about it – in which case, it’s a good thing, because your authenticity will repel the men you don’t want in your life. They probably wouldn’t make a great companion and lover to you anyway.

Develop Your Confidence
Confidence is the number one that men find attractive in a woman. Without confidence, you could be a supermodel and you won’t attract many guys. If you lack self-confidence, that sends off a man-repelling vibe. Guys just aren’t attracted to women who aren’t confident. Here’s the thing, if you don’t believe you are sexy, no guy is going to believe it either. Unfortunately, when you give off a self-conscious vibe, the only guys you’ll attract are the losers who are out to take advantage of girls with low self-esteem. By developing an aura of natural confidence you are also more likely to weed out undesirable men. Insecure men do not like engaging with women who actually like themselves. Guys can sense from a mile always and pounce. If you are insecure about something, believe that a man can smell it from the distance. He can see it in your eyes, your gestures and your voice. Don’t be needy, because that won’t attract guys. You have to be fun with yourself and don’t appear looking for someone to fill a void in their lives.

A confident woman knows her worth. She knows that the right guy will be very lucky to be with her because she has the ability to make him happier than any other woman can. Fact is, men want to feel like they won the prize, like they are dating the head of the cheerleading team. They want to feel like they are the luckiest guy in the room. Just as he wants you to be proud of him, he wants to be proud of you. If you have a bummer, insecure, self-deprecating, « I’m not so great » attitude, why would he feel like he scored? Whether it’s your looks, brain, triumphs, the respect you garner, your career, or simply how you push yourself through pain points and get out of a box, he wants to feel like he can show you of. If you act confident then it means that you think that you have good reason to be, and that someone would be lucky to date you. At the same time, acting confident means that you draw attention to yourself in a positive way and that means you’ll get noticed. Most of all, it means that a guy can imagine having you on his arm and attracting the jealousy of all the other men in the room.

To become more confident, you need to change your thoughts. If you can control what you think in a more positive way, you will definitely be more confident. You will know your strength, your strong point physically and you will not be ashamed of yourself.

Be Kind
By showing kindness, you will develop your positive energy, warm and peaceful. Without doubt, good guys will be attracted to it, like bees to honey.

A few examples of kindness gestures:
– Find opportunities to give compliments. It costs nothing, takes no time, and could make someone’s entire day. Give at least 1 compliment per day.
– Helps others find the positive.
– Tell someone the truth. Sometimes it’s really hard, but it’s what friends do.
– Say « thank you » to someone who made a difference…
– Listen. Don’t interrupt. People don’t always want us to suggest a solution. They want us to listen. We underestimate how important and comforting it is to be listened to.
– Do something special that you know your significant other will appreciate.
– When you see something good, share it.
– Be kind to yourself. Every day write down 3 to 5 things for which you’re grateful. I do this every night with a simple email to my self. Research has shown that this increases happiness 25%.
– Be sure to also share in a work setting. When you get great service tell the person who helped you. Then, tell a manager. Don’t forget to point out those people at your work who do a great job.
– Encourage someone to pursue her dreams. And help her achieve her goals.
– Say « yes » to someone. You might help someone accomplish great things!
– Give someone the benefit of the doubt.
– Everyone is important. Learn the names of people around you. Also say « hello » to strangers and smile.
– Etc…

Be Positive
Beauty really is more than skin deep. Research shows that positive personality traits can impact perceptions of physical attractiveness. It may not be groundbreaking, but men are indeed attracted to pleasant, positive, and cheerful personalities in women. These positive personality traits are associated not only with higher physical attraction but also social attraction – a key factor in choosing a long-term partner. This isn’t to say you need to put on a happy face 24/7, but if you focus on being friendly, and are open to meeting new people, it’s a win-win.

Be Honest
Research has shown men are more sensitive to sexual infidelity than women (likely for evolutionary reasons – they want to be sure their offspring is actually theirs!) and are more likely to end a relationship after a partner is unfaithful than women. Honesty affects judgments of physical attractiveness as well. Honest people seems more fit, healthy and kind.

Be Intelligent
Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career are very attractive.

Have Fun And Be Bubbly
You’ve got to be silly together. If you want him to feel like he can have fun with you, you can’t be afraid to have fun with him. Even if you’re afraid of looking ridiculous. Don’t be afraid to let go, let loose, get out of your box, and laugh out loud! Guys love girls that they can joke around with. Knowing how to playfully flirt and how to use a sarcastic tone well is very key in developing a fun personality that will cause guys to feel attraction for you. If you can take a playful insult and maybe deliver a few playful insults of you own, you’ll be well on your way to magnetize men.

Laughing a lot, making cute expressions, and being the life of the party are sure fire ways to get noticed by guys. Being bubbly also helps present your personality as a warm, friendly, very nice person, which is extremely attractive. It’s also been shown that heightening the pitch of your voice is more attractive subconsciously to men. Other girls may call you annoying or fake when you do this, but don’t worry about the haters. Many women even subconsciously will heighten their pitch without knowing it, as it definitely makes them appear more bubbly. Think of it this way. You’re the girl who is always happy and always wants to make other people feel good. You are very social, talkative, sweet people that just immensely brighten up people’s days. Be that girl and you will find yourself with a lot of options in the man department.

Be fun. Always look at the bright side in life. Be happy and you’ll have a cheerful and positive face that draws people. Humor is a great way to attract a guy to you and to make him be interested in you, simply because men love to be around women who are entertaining and know how to make him laugh.

Treat Yourself The way You Want Other To Treat You
It’s true… Some of us go down a list of the treatment we expect, places we want to wine and dine, trips we want to go on and pampering we want to receive. Yet we skimp and don’t invest in doing these things for ourselves. This is something we must do all the time, whether you are in a relationship or not. Make a vow to never be cheap with yourself ever again. Ignore prices on men. Stop waiting for sales. Invest in yourself at the highest level possible, whatever that looks like for you. Don’t be irresponsible with your finances, but stop denying yourself pleasures that will make you feel special and successful.

Have A « Deserve It » Attitude
Start embracing the fact that you do deserve it, even if you have trouble believing it right now. It’s about someone else’s limitations on what they think they cannot have – or do not deserve. It really is about how much you feel you are worth. It is about how much your feel you deserve. Asking for and expecting it from those around you is the first step. The more you do it, the stronger that irresistible energy becomes. People will start feeling it too and soon, you won’t even have to ask anymore. Men value women who come from a place of confidence, poise and inner strength. Women who know they are worth it deserve it, expect it and receive it. They encourage and support other women to come from that place of power.

How you treat yourself is your announcement to the world of how much you are worth. How are you teaching the world to treat you?

Give Excellence To Everyone Around You
Expecting the best from others is just one side of the equation to attracting an excellent partner. Remember that what you give to others and yourself, you also receive.  » Quality is not an act, it is a habit ».

Be Strong
A woman who has unshakable beliefs, who shows and tells the same story is someone who makes a man feel safe. A feeling of safety is one of the most crucial elements when it comes to a man’s ability to trust, let his guard down, and open his heart completely.

That’s why, answer to these questions to check if it is the case:
– Can you stand tall when he experiences moments of weakness? Or will you wither and collapse?
– Are you strong in your values and beliefs? Or are easily influences?
– Who are you?
– What do you believe in? Do you stand by it? Do you have integrity? Or are your words and beliefs worthless?

Be Vulnerable
But in the same time, even if you can see it a little paradoxical, are you sometimes vulnerable?
Here, is all about being real and open. Exposing your weaknesses maybe seem to be the opposite of strength, but real strength is shown in your ability to express vulnerability. Showing your fragility, your pain points, your insecurities and even revealing things that you have done that you are not proud of or regret… now that takes strength. Show him how much you love him. Tell him how crazy you are about him. Let him know that you have never felt this way before. Your emotional vulnerability makes him confident about your feelings for him, and therefore allows him to be emotionally vulnerable and open about his for you.

Assume Your Femininity
Is about both appearance and attitude. Being feminine is about embracing your beauty, softness, tenderness, nurturing, sweet side that men just don’t generally have. Be a woman! Be a girly girl! Wear dresses and lipstick and smell good! Enjoy making yourself look good. Be nurturing. One of the feminine traits of woman that a man isn’t often imbued with is the natural instinct to nurture. You can be vulnerable, and show him that you need him, but you also take care of him. No matter how strong, independent and masculine he is, all men love to be nurtured, taken care of, and even babied at times.

Like Your « You Time », Be Independant
You like to think of it this way: I love eating cake, but I can’t eat it 24/7. It’s the same with a relationship. Of course you like being with the person, but you can’t be with him all the time. You still need to show your enthusiasm for him. Be excited to see him. A man wants to feel wanted and special just like you do. So when you see him, be totally present. Smile. And be your fabulous and interesting self.
As humans, there’s a tug between being autonomous and bonding with others. Both are equally important. You need to maintain your independence when you become part of a couple, and the same goes for your partner. Bottom line: keep up your yoga-and-brunch dates with the girls, and encourage him to hang out with the guys.

Support Your Identity With Meaningful And Loving Personal Connections
Have space for yourself and be loved for that self. Friends, family, and other personal interactions are necessary for you to feel loved and deserving of love. Remove all toxic and detrimental relationships, past and present, can affect the way you feel about your self and the way you carry yourself.

Be In A Constant State Of Expansion
Change is good and inevitable. Stop saying things are too expensive. Instead, say, « I am worth it. So, how do I afford this? How do I obtain this? Never let money stop you from doing something you desire. You don’t have a lack of finance: you have a lack of ideas. Tap into your desires and upgrade to the next level. Ask yourself, « How much will this cost me if I do not invest in it? » The point is that you must treat yourself as someone worthy of your desires, dreams and hopes. Only then you will attract a man who wants to nurture them.


Be Your Best Self Physically

Men are visual creatures, plain and simple. Even if you weren’t born a super model, you can still improve your appearance a lot. And remember, social psychology studies show that we sub-consciously associate physically attractive people with positive traits including kindness, honesty and intelligence. We may not realize that we are doing this, and we may even deny it, but tests show attractive people are viewed more favorably than their less attractive counterparts.

Be Healthy
Eating healthy is essential. Eat a lot of fruits, vegetables and food that is rich in nutrients. Try to avoid processed or greased foods as much as you can. Moderation is a key in life! Besides, finally get that gym membership and exercise at least 3 times a week for at least thirty minutes or more. And if you are not happy with your body, start dieting!

Be Clean And Smell Nice
If you stink don’t expect to attract a good man! Hygiene is essential!!! Stay clean and smell nice: deodorant and the slightest spirits of perfume. Shower every day. Wash your hair as often as you need to. Your mouth must be irreproachable. Remember to brush your teeth and use mints, gum, tics-tacs to keep your breath fresh when you need to. You have to spend a little time and effort on your appearance and on the finer details. If you are starting to get a bit of a mustache for instance – that is not sexy and it’s also not necessary – all it takes is to wax, bleach or pluck. Likewise spend time on your nails, your eyebrows, your complexion, your makeup and everything else.

Avoid strong perfumes and smells that will irritate rather than attract them to you. More natural scents such as floral perfumes. Wear sweet smelling perfumes that aren’t too rich or sensual. Flagrances that smell sweet and fruity add to your cute persona. The smell of your skin, and freshly washed hair. Every woman has a specific scent, and that is exactly what you should point it out and use to your advantage.

Dress Sexy And In A Confident Way
You have to dress into something you feel good in. Find an outfit that you love to wear because all it’s about feeling great in it. You should dress confidently as though you’re proud of you body and you want to make yourself seen. But as the same time you should dress sexily. Try to emphasize your more feminine and sexual aspects – give yourself full lips, big eyes, luscious hair and long legs, and wear the things that you know men beg their girlfriends to wear. You must find clothes that emphasize your best attributes. Always try to wear clothes that are somewhat form fitting, but not too tight and never baggy – you don’t want to look like you’re revealing too much or hiding too much. In other words, give the sweats a break ever now and again, and wear something pretty! Don’t shy away from bright colors in an attempt to sink into the background, but instead choose those will be eye grabbing and then wear them in such a way that gets you noticed. A short pencil skirt at work, high heels, bare legs, elaborate hair, or a bold red lipstick don’t be afraid to wear them because they’ll get you noticed. You can wear as well, soft, flimsy fabrics that flow or drape over your body instead of dressing up in crisp, sharp clothes. And always dress appropriately for the occasion. And for that, feel free to invest a little money and time on learning on how to dress well and have a great look.

Don’t forget to vary your look from time to time to try dying your hair, or wearing it in different styles and to. Men love this because it means variety in the bedroom potentially, but also because it keeps you fresh and exciting and forces them to see you in a new light. At the same time, different men have different preferences and fetishes, and if you dress your self in a variety of ways that means you are likely to strike a chord with a greater variety of men.

The balance of sexiness is fragile, if you try too hard you can say goodbye to good men. Never look desperate! In the subconscious of men, boobs spilling out of a too-tight dress equal desperation. Opt for a slightly more discreet body-skimming halter or tube to give off a confident, sexy vibe. If you’re wearing a very little skirt then don’t wear a low cut top either. Be confident and stylist but hold something back or you’ll look desperate. More neurotic than confident. You want to draw attention to yourself and to your positive features, but you don’t want to look as though you’re trying too hard. If you want to look cute, don’t behave in a sexy manner. Cute is fragile and nervous. Sexy is confidence and oomph. They don’t mix too well.

Besides, be sure to draw attention to your neck dimple – the little indentation beneath your throat and just above your clavicle – with an eye-catching necklace. Research shows that this often overlooked area is alluring to men because it represents femininity and vulnerability.

Have A Good Hair Cut And Good Make Up
Here you’re not trying to be a seductress, so avoid heavy makeup. Stick with subtle hues and nude shades to enhance your innocence. Better a natural look! By having too much makeup, you will look sexy or glamorous and in the same time, you will attract the wrong kind of guys… So red lipstick yes, but don’t cake yourself in makeup.

Concerning your hair. Have a good hair cut. You must have a good hair cut, even if it means having to spend a little extra money. A good hair style will do wonders for your self esteem, besides bringing out the symmetry in your face.

Finally, always look polished. Wear that bright nail polish on your toes – maybe a luminous hot pink, a blazing orange, or a bright turquoise. Put on those beautiful bracelets that give off a pleasant sound when you gesture with your hands.


Be In Control Of Your Body Language

Words are important but forgetting body language would be an error… The main part of your communication should come from your tone of voice and body language. For this reason, the following part is very important for you. You have to learn to control your body to attract the man you want… Your body and the tone of your voice are formidable weapons.

What guys find attractive about women is their positive spirit. This spirit manifests through your smile. No man wants to approach a woman that is grumpy and sad looking. You don’t have to smile at everyone, but if you see a guy you like, let your smile tell him he’s welcome to approach you. Smile a lot! A girl who smiles always seems more warm and approachable than girls who behave like snobs. And look cute doing it either by scrunching your nose or curling your lip now and then watch yourself in a mirror and perfect your cute smile. A warm smile can ignite a man’s courage to walk up to you. But as usual, don’t over think it! Smile genuinely!

The combination of the smile and eye contact subconsciously tells a man that you are approving of him as a potential mate. And combine your smashing smile with 3-5 second eye contact. These seconds are long enough to encourage the man.

Another trick, always smile and try this sneaky tactic to make him think he already knows you: « flash both brows upward for a half-second and then drop them quickly ». An eyebrow raise is a form of recognition, so you’ll have him scanning his mental database to figure out your connection and when he may have met you.

Flirt with your lips and not with your words! Using red lipstick could be an advantage for you, as since our 4-legged primate ancestors once attracted their male counterparts with their swollen vulvas. Now that we are 2 legs, parts are, well… quite hidden, so evolution has passed the mating magnet to another pair of exposed lips.

While talking, you can gently and subtly lick or bite your lips. Women often do this subconsciously while they are talking to a man they are interested in. If you are eating, you can eat intentionally and slowly. Your date or crush will not be able to resist your lips and will start sending some romantic signals back your way.

Lining your lips in public is not sexy, it’s actually sort of tacky – so don’t think you’ll draw the worthwhile man’s attention that way.

Eye contact is very important. Don’t fix your eyes onto his when you’re talking to a guy for any more than a few seconds. While confidence may make your intentions clear, playing cute and coy will make him work harder to get you to stare back into his eyes. Hold his gaze for you just the right amount of time. Just a few seconds from across the room will show that you’re interested. You have to flash some fierce and flirty looks. Men need a whole lot more coaxing than you’d think. You have to send a pretty strong message that you’d be receptive to the guy if he actually came over to talk to you. You have to physically hold his attention. Make sure to maintain eye contact and to avoid looking around or checking your phone every five minutes when he’s talking to you. Show you are interested! Be coy yet approachable. When you look at the man, try not to look too eager, but make it clear that you would be happy if he started a conversation with you.

Your gaze is very important. Look down at your own feet coyly now and then in the middle of the conversation, and he’ll pursue you harder.

Hair is often one of the parts of the body that men find most attractive and it can be a powerful tool in flirting. You can do a number of things, from twirling a strand of hair, to brushing the hair away from your neck, to running your fingers through your hair and flipping your hair lightly.

Play with your hair. Slowly slide one of your hand through your hair, give it a couple of tussles, and then let it slowly drizzle from the nape of your neck down to the collar bone. The sexiness and playfulness of your hair, combined with the tenderness of your neck will kick in a few mating chemicals inside of him that will ignite his hunt mode. Running your fingers through your hair delicately, always works for any guy!

That’s why, soft hairstyle is essential. Anything delicate makes you look cuter. Soft hairstyles that flow with your waves or even straight down your shoulder delicately make you look naturally sweet and cute.

Tone of Your Voice
Speak softly. Don’t speak in a loud voice when you’re talking to a guy. Instead, speak in a soft, low tone, and smile just a little but every time you say something to him.

Sound cute. This may seem funny, but make cute noises when you bump into something or trip accidentally. A soft ouch or an oww makes you seem so much cuter.

Facial Expressions
Let him know you’re interested with facial expressions. When talking to that special man, arching your eyebrow, making sustained eye contact, and mirroring his facial expressions will all help him be more attracted to you subconsciously. Tips your head slightly downwards when you’re blushing or smiling, and look at him from under your eyebrow. Learn to blush. Instead of punching a guy in his arm or shrugging your shoulders, blush coyly when you’re complimented instead of taking it in your stride. And nod more than just your face. Be fluid and flexible in your movements. Slightly move your back along with your facial movements when you nod an affirmative while talking to a guy.

Use your hands. It is all about hinting at romantic activities through hand actions. This could include caressing yourself, like touching your chest, arms, or leg. Doing this conveys two distinct messages:
1. I’d like you to do this to me
2. I’d like to do this to you

Your hands broadcast your energy, which is super attractive. Watch your hands. Don’t move your hands about while talking to a guy. Keep them by your sides, or even better, interlace your fingers in front of your tummy. Showing that you’re interested. If you’re feeling his love, there’s no harm in leaning in to hear him talk.

Touch him. A light touch on the arm or knee can also show him that you like what he has to offer without being too aggressive. Touch can be a powerful way to send flirty messages. A light touch on the shoulders or top of the back is a great way to start. If you’re in a bar or other crowded place, you could break the personal bubble by stepping into his space a little bit, in order to let someone else pass by. A touch on the lower back, on the chest, or on the hand is an even more intimate move that will let you know you’re digging him. If he’s on the same page, he will reciprocate with some touching on his end.

Objects can also be used to convey the same message. These objects can include wine glasses, cigarettes (but bad for your health), silverware, etc. Gentle fidgeting or touching will certainly send strong signals to the man you have your eye on.

In a bar: hold a drink in your hand. Guy don’t want to be used. Rather, half of cocktail, if you finish your beverage while chatting with a guy, he could offer to buy you another to keep things moving. And use your drink as a seductive prop. A drink can be a great tool if handled correctly but avoid using it as a security blanket and can show discomfort when you’re fiddling with your straw or a bottle label. To avoid looking like a stress ball with lipstick, set down your vodka on the bar or a nearby table now and then to use your hands while telling an especially funny story to friend.

In keeping your back straight and your chin up, you radiate an air of self assurance. We all know that confidence is an exceptionally appealing trait. Even if your don’t feel sure of yourself, keep that spine straight. Great posture always makes you look more fascinating. If you are not used to holding your head high, do it anyway. Raise your shoulder and arch your back. Let nature use its own sexual elixir to give you an assist while you are out and about. Arching your back reflects lordosis behavior (basically sticking your butt out), which almost every female mammal exhibits during estrus. Estrus is the sign that all our male mammalian cousins are waiting for: the female has approved of their mating dance and is sexually receptive. You have to carry yourself in a confident manner. Don’t slouch, look at your feet, or cross your arms over your chest. Avoid nervous actions such as playing with your hair or biting your nails.

Shift your weight. Don’t stand firm in one spot when you’re standing and talking to a guy. Shift your weight from one foot to another now and then.

The way you sit is also important. Keep your feet together and bring your hands close together near your knees when you’re sitting with a guy and having a conversation. You’ll look cute without even trying.

Subtly show off your lower half: when you’re seated on a banquette or bar stool, try crossing and uncrossing your legs every minute or two. It’s a flirtation action that draws attention to a body part that men crave touching.

While one of your legs is crossed over the other, dangle your shoes from your toes so that it’s half off your foot. Not only does this action indicate that you’re unlikely to bolt if he approaches you, but it also suggests that you’re extremely relaxed and self-assured.

Way Of Walking
A quality man is attracted to a woman who walks beautifully. When you are in « best walk » mode, rest assured, you are turning heads. A focused, yet relaxed stride is a valuable and easy tool you must use to get him to notice you right away. Do not walk too slowly, or too fast… just a good even stride.

Subtly Preen
Men truly love seeing a woman preen a little, but not in an overly obvious or vulgar way. Preening requires subtlety. No need to overdo it. You’re simply « smoothing your feathers ». Indeed, preening gets to the heart of flirting and creating an aura of mystique.

For example, suppose you’re sitting somewhere, say at a cocktail party, and lot of interesting men are milling around. Now is your time to preen. You can decide to smooth your skirt… simply run your hand from thigh to knee (while he’s watching, of course), or you might adjust the strap of your high heel ever so slightly, and then gently splay your fingers softly from ankle to mid-calf. Just checking, you know… to see if everything is in place. You’re preening a little.

Own Your Space
Whether you are walking, standing, or sitting, it is essential that you become comfortable in making the space you occupy all your own, whether you are alone or with others. To do this, you must not give any impression of discomfort. Instead, be « in the present » and enjoy your surroundings right now. This is what it means to own your space. You have to become totally at ease in choosing to make yourself the queen of your space. Frankly, in any given moment, the area in choosing to make yourself the queen of your space. You are much more likely to attract the right man if you appear to be someone who feels relaxed in her own skin. Invite him into your personal space…

Appreciate Your Surroundings
I encourage you to first learn to appreciating any small, but pleasurable detail about your surroundings – the crispness in the air, the smell of herbs in your food, the beauty of a clear sky, whether you are surrounded by a plethora of people or none at all.


Be In Control Of The Game

Practice Living In Your Unique Feminine Energy, Create An Aura Of Intrigue
Walk down the street, and make eye contact with different men. As you make eye contact, I want you to respond to the situation with your full presence. Smile warmly and genuinely, or stop, make eye contact, and smile and say ‘thank you » if the situation calls for it. Fell and notice the energy exchange between you and every man you exchange energy with.

Remember it’s not ‘just a smile » that will do the job. Attracting men is about an energy: your unique feminine energy, radiance and authenticity.

The most important factor to keep in mind when we wish to attract a man is to create an « aura of intrigue » in a such a way that you leave a positive and subtle impression on the observer. In other words, you never want to be too obvious or seem as if you are desperate for attention. Subtlety is the key.

Practice Receiving Their Energy
Accept men. Acknowledge their presence and their existence. Accept all men from all walks of life.You wouldn’t believe how often men feel that their hard work (which is something they pride themselves on) goes unappreciated and unnoticed. Once you give men an energy of acceptance (which really means openness), you will be very surprised how much male attention, energy and attraction comes your way.

As you receive and exchange energy from men, let yourself be open to them by showing whether through words or actions, or a facial expression – your appreciation for them. This world is full of women who are closed off (for good and bad reasons) and what this signals to men is that you’re not interested in them, and that you’re just into yourself.

Let Him Chase You, Play A Little Hard To Get
We still chase each other just like the animals in the wild. The male and female sexes still play games to win each other’s affection.
Try as much possible to let him chase you. Men will do anything to chase after a woman who seems difficult to convince but yet shows signs that she may give in at some point. In other words, you need not be easy. But do not be impossible, either. Drop him some small crumbs, some hints to show him that, although you have not said yes, you like him, that you may consider dating him, some day.

Whatever you do, make sure, it is not a long-drawn-out chase. A week or two of chase time is fine. Otherwise, men easily lose interest.
Men love what they can’t have. So when you display to him that you have several options, then this really makes him want you. But you do need to show some interest because many men will move on if they don’t feel like they’ve plated a seed of interest in you. This mean flirt with him, but also let him know that you have other men in your life that can easily sweep you away if he doesn’t act.

If it is natural for you, be feisty. Feisty girls are girls that don’t let guys take control of them. Guys love what they can’t have easily, and having a little bit of feisty attitude helps. Of course, you’ve got to gauge the guy, because there are some guys who absolutely hate feistiness. Most of these guys have some kind of issues with self-esteem or control, and thus, probably not worth your time. Do not let him have what he wants all the time; instead show him that are going to make some choices. However, do not be domineering or try to be the boss (unless your guy is into that). Men need a certain level of control and they need to validate themselves as manly men. So to emasculate him would not be a good way to make him think you’re a keeper.

Encourage Him A Little Bit, Some Men Need It
Don’t be afraid to make a move on guys. But careful, there are some guys out there that are shy and need a pretty big sign before they start making the move. The best way to let a guy know that you are interested is to ask him if he wants to hang out. You don’t need to make it a big deal or call it a date. Just ask him if he wants to go get some lunch or a coffee and get to know him. Men believe that it is very « refreshing » when women ask them out. For example, telling him that you are really bored or telling him you can’t wait to see a certain movie. Call the day and leave him think about you for the rest of the night. A little of chasing won’t hurt, in fact, this will be fun! But be very careful not to overdo things to attract men. Men are fond of competition, which is why you should use this against him. Men are playful, they don’t like being ignored and they invest on their ego, but behind every man is a sensitive part of them. That part needs to be well taken care of.

Let Him Be Familiar With You In A Non-Stressful And Cooperative Setting
We are more comfortable with, and like things that are more familiar to us. The more times we are exposed to something, the more familiar we become with it, and the more we like it. This is why people tend to fall in love with their schoolmates or office-mates. In fact, many of us end up spending more time with our office friends than with our significant others. Because of this greater contact, we may end up feeling like we have more in common with our work friends than with our spouse, whom we only see on weekends. This is one of the key reasons why people cheat. To attract your man, you want him to become familiar with you in a non-stressful and cooperative setting. Organised dates are fine but a date usually brings with it a variety of social pressures. Taking a group class together, for example, does not have the stress of a date and presents a cooperative activity that will help to increase familiarity and attraction.

Much better then is to meet friends of friends – this way they have already been vetoed, and you have some common ground. Advertise to your friends then that you are single and don’t want to be, and ask them to ask around. Better yet, get them to throw a party where the alcohol will be flowing and you can chat uninhibited. Parties will attract a wide range of people all of whom are somehow connected and have all the benefits of a club with none of the disadvantages. Now just be sure your Facebook page looks good – the next day that’s where they’ll be looking to check you out and likely what your main point of contact will be.

Show an interest in your man’s hobbies and ask him to teach one of them to you. Pick something non-competitive, that you will be fairly good at. This provides an opportunity to get to know one another in a friendly setting. Note that choosing a cooperative and non-competitive activity is extremely important because studies also show that contact in a high-stress, competitive setting will actually increase animosity rather than attraction towards you.

Find Similarities With Him
You need to find common ground. Psychologists have shown that we like people who are more similar to us. They may include background, culture, hobbies, food, movies, opinions or personality traits. By establishing common ground, you increase the comfort level of your man and automatically make him like you more. Be going out on a date with your man, do some research on him. Most of us have an online presence nowadays, so do some Google searches and see what you can find about his hobbies, entertainment preferences and opinions. If you have mutual friends, you can also quiz them about him, but only do this if you are sure of their discretion. This will only make you seem like a stalker, and men usually like to think of themselves as doing the stalking.

Once you have found some good information about your man, do some research into his areas of interest. Pick ones that can lead to follow-up activities and ensure your future dates or get-togethers. For example, if you discover that he is interested in Mexican food, you can buy a Mexican cookbook in advance. During dinner, briefly mention that you just got this really good cookbook and are trying to learn how to cook Mexican food.

Make sure that you are not too direct with these similarities because it will only make it seem like you are trying too hard or are too desperate for his attention. Instead, you want these similarities to come out casually, in a matter of fact way. If he thinkS you are too needy and you need to find some activities of her own. Be careful. Do not cater to your man, but do create some lucky coincidences where the both of you find yourselves engaged in a shared activity that you know he enjoys. He will be more attracted to you, and ask you out on future outings if you create those opportunities for him, and make it easy for him to say « yes » to you.

Flatter Him
Flattery works on both men and women. Even when the compliments are obvious or untrue, it still works. Positive comments produced just as much liking for the flatterer when they were untrue as when they were true. However, when trying to attract your man, always make sure you are not too obvious. If you use too many compliments and try too hard, it will seem like you are too needy or desperate for his attention. This is a big turn-off for men. Do not spend all the time talking. Ask your man many questions, and listen to what he has to say. This information will help you in future dates and listening is a compliment in itself.

Be interesting, Teach Him Something
Men can’t be expected to always keep a conversation going, so you’re going to have to spur the conversation. Have a few interesting topics to talk about. When a woman can be incredibly interesting, men will be attracted despite what the woman looks like; being interesting also includes your lifestyle. Having more interests and being a well-rounded person will help you to be more interesting and therefore help you to attract men. But don’t dominate the conversation. A cute girl is rather shy. You may be smart and clever, but play along with the conversation and let the guy take the lead in asking you questions or making conversations.

Show off your sharp mind. Don’t be afraid to show off your brains for fear of intimidating a man. Don’t pretend to be stupid. A few girls may assume that guys like silly girls. While a guy may like that for the first few minutes, he’ll be bored in no time. Stupid is not cute. And don’t baby-talk either. You’ll become annoying. But avoid bragging.

Show what makes you unique. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there to show what makes you who you are. If appropriate, tell stories about yourself. Don’t be afraid to share your interests. Share something about your friends of family.

It is very attractive if a girl can teach something well, especially if it’s something that may interest us. For example, if you can teach a musical instrument, an art (like painting or photography), or a sport (think female-oriented sports like tennis and volleyball). This also allows for you two to have a new mutual interest and mutual activity. If you don’t have anything that you could teach, you also should think about evaluating your life. Do you have a well-balanced life full of interesting things or are you boring and one-dimensional? Ask yourself, « What are my interests? », and « Do I have any interesting hobbies? ». The more of these activities that you have the more you’ll be able to teach.

Show positive attitude and be interested in what he has to say. Just say yes. Be curious about his ideas, remarks, don’t say just no… Don’t be overly disagreeable right away – even if you disagree. Be playful with your difference. Make positive small talk!

And final advise, don’t immediately ask him what he does (some men think all women are gold diggers).

Don’t Congregate In Crowds
When you go out, no more than 3: girls nice and small (ideal one or 2 friends). Don’t congregate in crowds. This tip is mostly for the girls that like to go clubbing a lot to find men. If you want to be approachable, don’t go with too many other women. Being with 3 girls or with some guy-friends makes it very nerve-racking for guys to approach. Guys love to approach 2-women groups and single people especially. If you do go with a few friends, make sure you have time to separate yourself and maybe go chill by the bar for a little bit. Or just sit down somewhere by yourself or with 1 girlfriend for a little bit.

Avoid standing so that your shoulders are squared toward each other, physical openness will send the message that you’re okay with being approached and not engrossed in an intimate convoy.

Be sure to plant yourselves in a high-traffic area near the center of the room… but never near an exit.


First you have to know who you are. Working on yourself is the first thing you need to do to become attractive to men! Without this first step, you can say goodbye immediately to good guys! Then, when you are comfortable with yourself and being happy, you can use all the tips to attract the male! Be your best self physically, be in control of your body language and be in control of the game!
If you need more advise, let me know in the comments below!



One Comment

  1. Jim janvier 30, 2017 at 8:41 - Reply

    Wow, Aurore! You must have has great fun researching this article – and testing it out

    How about a future follow-up article sometime – « Now that you have caught your perfect man – here’s how to KEEP him ». (And if you do, please make sure it includes reading a special book with him together – it’s called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by Dr John Gray. The audiobook version is great for sharing within a relationship.
    I’ve asked many people if they have read it. Most reply that tgey have HEARD of it but didn’t actually Read it

    Well done and continued success

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